My life as an owned Leather Alpha boy

This article focuses on when I was being trained as a boy to actually earn the title of Master; it is written from the Leather Alpha boy ‘s perspective, and covers the life of an Owned Alpha Leatherman in the context of one of My Mentor’s pack. It will cover what does it mean being an Alpha, what does it entail in Leather life, and why is it part of any Dominants training.

From Alpha to omega, the historical foundation of hierarchy

Back in ancient times, to the roots of human history when society as we conceive it today has reached its golden age, hierarchies commanded profound reverence, serving as the very foundations of tribes and social frameworks that emerged leading to what we call “Society”.

If you think just as an example about how the Greeks would have a very structured system on how the adult men would take care of the adolescents, and how they were introduced to the adult life (from hunting to fighting, sex, work, philosophy, etc..), you will have quite a clear idea of what I’m talking about. In those times, a boy would be introduced to the higher adult society by a Man, and be educated and initiated by him. That boy would then understand and experiment on his own skin a lot of what he would have been facing in his adult life; again, from fighting to hunting, from helping out the elder in his work, from being of service in the home of a Landlord, and to having sex.

Historical Context

There have been several historical periods that exhibited characteristics described above, some of which are:

• Ancient Mesopotamia (3000 BCE – 539 BCE): Mesopotamia, often considered one of the earliest civilizations, featured complex social structures with distinct hierarchies. The Sumerians, Akkadians, Babylonians, and Assyrians all had well-defined social orders and hierarchies.
• Ancient Egypt (3100 BCE – 30 BCE): Ancient Egypt was renowned for its rigid social hierarchy, with pharaohs at the top followed by nobles, priests, scribes, and commoners. The society placed immense importance on maintaining the established order.
• Classical Greece (8th century BCE – 6th century CE): Greek city-states such as Athens and Sparta had hierarchical systems, although they varied in structure. Athens had a democratic system but still possessed a hierarchical arrangement with citizens, metics (foreign residents), and slaves. In Sparta, a militaristic society, the social order revolved around the warrior elite.
• Ancient Rome (753 BCE – 476 CE): The Roman Empire had a highly stratified society, where the aristocracy and emperor held supreme power. Slavery was widespread, and social status was a crucial determinant of one’s position in society.

Like it or not, we come straight from these cultural backgrounds, and these kind of mechanics are deeply rooted in our nature, even if we do our very best to deny it.

Hierarchy in the world of Leathermen

Real Leathermen are traditionalists and have a strong call for Rituals, Traditions and Protocols. Doesn’t matter how much we evolved from those ancient times, and even though Old Guard Culture comes straight from a strict adherence to Military lifestyle, actually it doesn’t really matter if we had a military education or not (it helps, but it’s not mandatory). We still work and live by the feeling of a sense of structure and hierarchy between us.

Of course this is only true to some people, and this is why still today you can hear about “Old Guard Leatherman” definition. Old Guard is something that doesn’t belong in a mainstream fashion to our days by definition, but some of us decide to live by the Codes and Protocols of those ages and that environment (here’s an article about the History of Old Guard Leather and what it entails). It is both for a matter of worshipping and honoring our roots, but also a way to still live by those rules and Codes, even if each day we seem to become more and more outnumbered by those who live Leather as a mere fetish, sexuality, or today more often, as a meaningless display of narcissism on social media.

I do believe that being a “part time” Leatherman is less honorable than being an Old Guard one, but I also do believe in personal freedom, so be it. We Old Guard Leathermen exist, and the new guard exist as well. Not my place to judge, and also everyone’s sexuality and psychology is unique and good and has the right to be.

Yet, we are different.

Starting as a Leather Alpha boy, to become a Master

By the book, according to Old Guard Protocol, it does not really matter wether you address yourself as a Dominant or a submissive out of the box. You don’t get to entitle yourself as a Master just because you like the idea of it or because you feel entitled of being one. It just doesn’t work that way, and I have collected so many sad and tragic stories of failure that come from self proclaimed masters who made a mess of their subs, and viceversa.

Being a Master means much more than just shouting orders, being obeyed and being Dominant. It involves a long path or learning, and I’m not just talking about a matter of learning at a bondage masterclass or on a whip cracking workshop. You will have to learn, on your skin, what it means to belong.

You will have to learn what it means to suffer, to trust, to beg for Ownership inside of you, to feel the joy and the calmness that belonging to a Master means. You will have to learn what it means to put people what you will put them through. You will have to learn to Dominate yourself before being able to Dominate others, and you’ll learn to never be harmful or a danger to those who put their lives in your hands.

So, regardless of what you think you are, you don’t just get to walk in Old Guard Leather Community with the arrogance of thinking you’ll be welcomed and trusted and respected because of your beautiful gear, how much you spent on it, or on your looks and thoughts. You will have to earn the respect by complying with what that gears stands for.

Ideally, you will get to be taken under the Mentoring and guiding figure of an Older Leatherman that decides to meet you, know you, test you, and eventually train you. This also has to do with acquiring the ability to shove your ego down your throat, and learn that just because you’re Dominant, that doesn’t mean there’s no space for submission in your heart.

Of course, especially nowadays, this is a very rare dynamic. Those of us who can say to have been in this kind of right path and have known the love and care of a Mentor, and that have slowly learned what it means to be part of this Community, are the few lucky ones.

I am grateful for having been one of these lucky Men.

So, I decided that I had enough experience and that eventually the Old Guard I had been reading about and taught about, all that I envisioned for my future was something that slowly died after the 90’s, and that I should suck it up and just cope with the fact that The Community is now shredded in tiny little groups around the world, and that it would have been impossibile, for me, to get in touch with the right peers, in that moment of my life, with the obligations I had and such. So I decided to let it go, and just “auto graduate” and to be the Master I knew I was destined to be in the future.

Yes, it was wrong, from a Protocol point of view, from an Ethical point of view, and from an educational point of view. But it was also bad for me, for my growth, for my own soul and for the stress that being a real Master involves, stress for which nobody in their 20s is ready.

I don’t want to say though at the same time that it was bad, because I got to Own great boys and slaves, some of which are still with me. The adventures I lived, the honest and just real and true love and protection and teaching that I gave to my boys is nothing I regret, and I’m proud of it. But I wasn’t ready to defend myself from how evil and manipulative the Ego of some men can be, and that’s a hard lesson learnt.

So I’ve built my own Leather Family together with my husband, and over the time I came to Own on a stable LTR basis two boys, and be co owner of another one.

The right occasion to complete my Training as an Alpha boy

At that time, in 2016, Sir Nike came my way and was the second Mentor I had.

The conversations with SIR started in a friendly and brotherly way. HE was addressed as Big Brother, I was addressed as little brother. After all, HE was 48 and I was 27, it was about respecting the hierarchy. I was requested after some chatting to go and visit HIM to have some brotherly fun on HIS slaves, and I was very excited by the idea. Then HE started to exercise some pressure and a growing Domination over me, always staying between the boundaries and dynamics of normal Protocol. The great part was that for the first time I was talking to a Man that was slowly getting my full Respects, as he not only understood but spoke the same language, and had similar goals and experiences.

On HIS encouragement, I started to deconstruct all that I have built by myself till that point. I slowly managed to lay down all defenses and prejudice that I had to lay over to be able to stand on my feet and be the Man I wanted to be. I came to trust HIM fully, as in HIM I didn’t see the mere will to Dominate me and obtain the extra hard prize of having my genuine submission. HE wanted to help me in having what I wanted, HE wanted to teach me what HE knew, and wanted to work with me, not on me.

Now, this is not the right post to share much more of O/our story, as it is not about telling you how it happened, but to let you know what happened and what it means, in O/our scenario.

Accepting the Honors of Hierarchy, and letting Ego go

To some people it’s inexplicable or difficult to believe that also a Dom needs to be Owned, or to be son of a Father. To the most, the idea that the golden “Dom Aura” they have in their fantasies is somewhat corrupted by the lurking idea of being an actual human being.

As of today, barely 1% of the people I know are truly only top or only bottom, with a different balance over the two roles. As a matter of facts, from my 20+ years of experience, it’s possible that one is strictly bottom, but it’s almost impossible that one is really only a top. As SIR used to say, we’ve been all on the floor licking some Boots, and we all had a dick up our asses and mouths at some point in our life; and if we didn’t, we’ve lost on something. It means we didn’t try. And you cannot say your life is complete if you exclude from your experience things before even trying them.

So, of course each one of us has a preferred role. Of course each one of us is more Dominant or more submissive. But these tendencies can float in each individual, swinging from one side to the other of the pendulum, depending on the partner involved. Your sexual role becomes static and healthy at the same time, when it’s linked to identity, and to build your unique identity, you need to allow yourself to live and experience life.

What does being an Owned Leather Alpha boy entails?

The main things that changed in my life where:

• I was ordered to officially step down publicly from title “Master” to “Dom”
• I was not taking new subs or boys for Ownership
• There was now somebody I happily obeyed to and that I let teach to me
• I still maintained my role with my subs and other subs that are not Owned by me
• I still was a Dominant in this community and love and appreciate all the submission and Respect I received
• I became stronger, Prouder and braver than I was before

Inside of HIS slave pack, I had the luck, Honor and Duty to be at the top of the foodchain. Which meant that there was SIR above all always, then there was me, HIS boy, and then there were the subs and slaves. We all obeyed and followed HIM, but I had special rights and duties. I was responsible of handling, counseling and helping the other subs in their role, I could handle and use the subs both for mine and SIR’s enjoyment and amusement when HE gave permission, and I got special privileges.

My Privileges and Responsibilities as an Alpha boy

BDSM itself and these kind of relationships are not meant to brutally rewire or rewrite one’s personality over the mere pleasure of conquer over a man. There is unfortunately plenty of people thinking or behaving that way, but that is not the right path, and can bring to temporary or permanent damage to the subject itself, and let’s say it clear: there is no real reason to do so, if not a sick and narcissistic way to express some kind of internal discomfort.

BDSM and these kind of relationships have the drive of empowering and developing one’s potential; it has a therapeutic power exchange experience and can indeed change a person, but the main goal should get that subject closer to its true self, not to bring it away from it.

My SIR was not trying to change me into something that I’ was not. HE had no interest in making a sub out of me, not unless if that’s what I spontaneously want. Between my SIR and I there was not a Master/slave relationship. There was a Mentor and apprentice relationship orchestrated within the dynamics and emotional world of what we both stand for: Protocol, Honor, Ethics, Moral Code and a strong sense of self development. HE took special care of me, because HE knew HE was deploying inside of me something about HIM. One day HE told me this:

True boy. One day my boy will walk in my Boots. And when time is up or close, boy will come to retirement home n will put Boots on my feet. N’ I go see my Master.

My life as an Owned Alpha boy lasted for one year and a half of intensive training, at the end of which I have learnt much more about myself, what truly mattered to me, and also a lot of BDSM skills thanks to other men my SIR introduced me to. Re-reading this article years after, I look back at those years and feel deeply grateful, to be one of the few Leathermen today who had the luxury of being trained in the traditional way, and that’s what motivates me to follow on on My Mentor’s job, in my life as a Leather Master.

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